ElderCarelink Blog

The frustrated historian: scaling down

by Judy Kirkwood
September 6th, 2011 at 9:00 am

I wasn’t around for my parents’ big move from the house we grew up in and where they lived in for 43 years. They downsized to a smaller home all on one level. I know mom got rid of a lot of things. But she still managed to hold onto too much. Once dad got more frail and forgetful and mom was preoccupied with his care, I thought it would be helpful if I started getting rid of things. They didn’t need all that stuff around collecting dust, right?

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A sentimental day: birthdays without mom

by Judy Kirkwood
September 2nd, 2011 at 9:34 am

September is the perfect time for new beginnings because with Labor Day comes my birthday, always a time to look ahead. But this year I’m looking back. This year Mom is not here.

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Young meets old: children and aging family members

by Judy Kirkwood
August 22nd, 2011 at 10:24 am

My mother was not aware of her last visit from her great granddaughters. She had already slipped into a long sleep. But I was aware. It was interesting how the 12-year-old asked so many good questions about my mother’s physical and spiritual being, and was concerned about how I was feeling.

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Preserve the connection: save your parents’ handwritten letters

by Judy Kirkwood
July 29th, 2011 at 11:37 am

Even though we are all accustomed to emailing and texting now, it’s not your parents’ typed words that will give you solace when they can no longer write because of cognitive or physical disabilities, or when they can no longer write because they are gone. With that said, save your parents’ handwritten letters.

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Touch, voice and family love can create “miracles”

by Carol Bursack
January 16th, 2011 at 5:28 am

In the recent tragedy that occurred in Tucson, Arizona, where a young man opened fire on a community event, killing six and wounding 13, Rep. Gabrielle Giffords was shot in the head. Most medical people were pretty well convinced that if Giffords would “recover” at all, she be left severely damaged. This still may be the case, however as I write this article, Giffords’ first steps toward recovery are creating the image of a living miracle.

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