Books have been written, articles published and columns run in newspapers with statistics that show women are the ones who step up to the plate as caregivers. While the numbers of female caregivers still outrank male caregivers, I would guess that the caregiver gender divide is much less marked when it comes to well spouses.
August 24th, 2011 at 9:00 am
When I asked my sister what was the hardest part of taking care of mom and dad, she promptly said “toileting.”
Caregivers don’t often complain. And, if they complain, it’s even less often that they focus on the obvious–the elimination of food and fluids from our bodies that happens a number of times on a daily basis. In fact, the whole subject is kind of taboo, as if it doesn’t exist. Which when you are taking care of an elderly or disabled person who can’t toilet themselves, you kind of wish it didn’t.
August 23rd, 2011 at 9:00 am
Older adults frequently get annoyed when asked the typical questions for orientation by healthcare professionals, but it can be very significant when the person is providing a month when it usually snows in their area and the temperature outside is in the 80’s. Staying oriented to the time, date and year is important. When an elder doesn’t know that information–even when prompted with hints–further observation is warranted to ensure other aging-related issues aren’t coming to the surface.
August 11th, 2011 at 9:00 am
Should we have taken mom to her brother’s memorial service? We felt we had to, but knew it might be problematic given her time traveling dementia between the present and past, not to mention the physical logistics of travel itself.